Bumps in the Road
1. Love is a feeling of caring for another person that can take many different forms
(friendship, familial, romantic), but it is always caring.
2. Love does not include physical or emotional abuse.
3. Love sometimes means thinking about someone else before yourself, but it does not mean
compromising your values or being untrue to yourself.
4. Love is not manipulative, it should not be used to get others to do what you want,
or based on “If you loved me, you would do it.”
5. If someone asks you to do something to “prove your love” to them, they do not love you as you
think they do. When you love someone, you don’t ask them to sacrifice a part of themselves to “prove”
their love for you.
6. Love and lust are not the same. Measure romantic love in trust and commitment, not by physical attraction.
7. Sex is NOT love. Love is NOT sex. Sex is a part of romantic love, which is not required,
obligatory, or mandatory.
8. Feelings of love breed feelings of happiness, comfortability, and appreciation for another.
9. Romantic love can and typically does fade when you are in a long term relationship;
as people change, so do feelings of love. The changes in feelings are not better or worse,
they are just different over time.
10. Love is a verb. It is active, not passive.